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Chris Wojda's avatar

I always feel that, "I don't see color" is simply shorthand for, "I don't care one way or the other what the color of your skin is and try not to make assumptions about people based on things they can't control." It's a strange thing to say, but I am understanding of where it comes from. Of course people notice our defining features. Nobody is "blind" to the fact that I'm 6'8". My size is one of my defining characteristics. People usually don't care one way or the other how tall I am (however, I know my height does intimidate or cause some to feel uncomfortable). It's consistently a central point of how I experience the world. Even hugs from old friends are sometimes strange. I can't buy pants at 99% of stores. I don't fit into most cars. I have to fly Delta Comfort or better to be at all pain-free while flying. Couches that I find comfortable are uncomfortable to most everyone else who I would share one with, and are harder to find than pants. I'd say, you should see me try to shower in many places in Japan, but that would be awkward. The list goes on. It's just my experience. Just as your experience is yours. Like many people with skin that is darker than mine, my ancestors were enslaved and murdered by racist people from other lands. But because I have fair skin and blue eyes, that part of "who I am" doesn't ever come up. At the end of the day, we're all individuals who are contending with the hands we were dealt for one reason or another.

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dave m's avatar

You are an individual. Enough said.

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