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Jan 5, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Kimi, your embodiment of the power of forgiveness is such an inspiration to me and I pray it may be for others.

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Thank you!

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Very moving! Loving this push for pluralism, keep going

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Jan 5, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Beautiful essay - thank you so much for writing and sharing it. I fervently hope that your voice will echo and amplify across the internet "soundwaves." Be of good courage and don't give up! Our culture needs you.

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🙏🏾❤️

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Jan 5, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Brilliant! You and Chloe Valdary have a lot to discuss in terms of the power of forgiveness and self-determination…

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🙏🏾❤️

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Jan 5, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

With so many people I know and love under the spell of CSJI, it is testimonials like this that I hope will eventually turn the tides. My experience is that most people flirting with radicalism (but who haven't fully committed) are still put off by hypocrisy, and this essay does a fine job shining a light at it.

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Lovely. It reminds me to reset my view of those still stuck in the victimhood mentality, and to continue to be more forgiving.

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Jan 5, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Wonderous, Ms. Katiti. Loved the last paragraph. Great advice for people of ALL colors.

Wishing You Best. :)

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Thank you for this and for the courage to speak up for joy

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Jan 5, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Well said. Bravo!

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Jan 7, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Kimi, this was beautifully written! Thank you for sharing your story. So many people will be inspired by your story and will hopefully begin to make the mind shifts that you did to free themselves of the ugly burden of victimhood. Thank you for being a voice of reason in a sea of noise. Gahhh this was so good! 🙌🏾

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Well said!

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Jan 6, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Kimi, loved your piece.

Some might say that critical theory / wokeness / cultural marxism doesn't really focus on physical appearance, phenotype and characteristics; but on a type of structural ethnic bigotry. Where ethnicity is a combination of culture, ancestry and tribe.

Structural ethnic bigotry is then a type of inter-tribal tension and conflict issue.

If someone defined structural ethnic bigotry in this way, and used critical theory / wokeness / cultural marxism; how would you respond?

Another question.

If a woke person asked you why "black" people across the statistical distribution have worse socio-economic outcomes than latinos, asians, caucasians, arabs and that this was because of white supremacy (where the definition of "whiteness" was expanded to include all arabs, asians, latinos, and specific successful tribes that happen to consist of people of subsaharan african ancestry), how would you respond?

How would you respond if told that successful Africans such as Igbos are successful because they practice:

---white supremacy

---whiteness

---hate

---"the man" ism

---patriarchy

---misogyny

---collaboration

---oppression

---exploitation

---hegemony

---imperialism

---colonialism

---fascism

---nazism

---sectarianism

---islamaphobia

---gaslighting

---many, many other big words I don't know the meanings of

Thanks again for your wisdom and insights.

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Jan 5, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Kimi, This is a brilliant essay. As you have learned, but not enough people realize, a focus on pain has the paradoxical effect of amplifying pain. Buddhist and Stoic wisdom go into this, and it has a basic in neuroscience, in how our attention regulates pain signals. I'm watching one of your YouTube videos now!

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Jan 6, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Completely agree on Buddhist and eastern thought about how to deal with pain.

Can you share more of your thoughts?

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Jan 6, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

I wrote about it at length at the link below, but to make it short, I interviewed U of Michigan psychologist Ethan Kross, who discussed what he called the "cognitive control" regions of the brain, which are a regulator of our emotional experiences, and make things hurt more or hurt less based on our judgements of how threatening they are. This is simiilar to the Buddhist (and Stoic) idea that we hurt because we make negative emotional judgments and that if we practice equanimity, we find peace. Here is my post, which links to an article I had published in Arc Digital:

https://mindfulmoderate.substack.com/p/the-defining-experience-of-my-life

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Fantastic! This is also a guiding principle of CBT. Thanks for the link.

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Jan 6, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

These mind sciences were data mined from eastern philosophy and given fancy names like CBT.

Is this your substack channel? Amazing :-)

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Jan 6, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Yes, that is my Substack. I'm posting about once a month.

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Thank you!

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I love this story for its happy ending! You took back your power and left the whiners behind. :)

You must be rolling your eyes now over BLM's silence over Israel (I just searched the word on their website and came up with FUCK ALL) and the Chicago chapter's support for the violent and genocidal Hamas cult. Isn't it weird how the ones who bleat on the most about 'genocide' are the ones who support it when they encounter it? <40 black men killed by police a year is 'genocide' but a mass slaughter by an expressly genocidal death cult is not. I'm rolling my eyes at transfolk supporting Hamas & their deeply flawed victims, since they're always going on about 'trans genocide' (<50 victims a year) but jump for joy when HamsterAss tries to exterminate Jews.

Victimhood is endemic on both sides of the political divide, for everyone. Take back your narrative! Resist the self-disempowering paradigm!

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Apr 10, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

Very well written essay, and I congratulate you for freeing yourself of a dead end ideology like Critical Race Theory. Like everything that has come out of the Frankfurt School of Marxist Communist/Socialist stupidity (and I include so called"Liberation Theology, which is neither about liberating oneself or about Christianity, but Communist/Socialist dead end ideology dressed up to look like it is Christian in form but only falsehood) you will find nothing that helps anyone, but does create equality in suffering. A few books I would suggest you read is Taleeb Starkes Black Lies Matter, Jason Riley's Please Stop Helping Us, and definitely many books written by Mr. Thomas Sowell (I just finished reading Black Rednecks And White Liberals, and have found that the so called critics on this book have more than likely barely read the books first essay, which is were the book title comes from, and haven't read the other essays in it that supports the first essay). God be with you on your life journey, and may you always have love and forgiveness in your heart.

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Jan 10, 2022Liked by Free Black Thought

beautifully stated, gives me a bit of hope in a sad, angry world

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